My eight year old used to throw fits and I also HATED it! Our club makes the entire team run sprints if any one kid throws a fit and believe me these kids don't like making thier friends mad! Also I realized that the main reason mine was throwing a fit was because it was meltdown from all the pressure they are under to win! We don't put stress on him but you don't wrestle because you want to lose, so anyway this year our coach reminded them every thursday practice that tourneys are just glorified practice for state and no pressure to win but just get good mat time! I also drove further and took my son to bigger tourneys to ease his anxiety a little before State. I am proud to say that I feel that these two actions were the main influence on my son taking first this last weekend at state. He was very calm about it. Last year he choked at districts and got beat by kids that he had beat! Any way I hope this helps!