You need good grades to go anywhere, so teach your kids early to study and keep their study habits strong. If you are a good athlete but bad grades you wont go to the Division I school you want and thats why you see for example the Butler fball team so good, because Butler picks up all the guys who dont have applicable grades for the DI colleges.

So if your a good athlete and good in the classroom you dont have to worry about anything, and personally parents just need to stay out of it and stop trying to live their lives through their children thats why so many younger kids get burnt out.