The whole point of sports is to teach winning and losing. And more importantly, how to deal with both. Don't lose sight of that. Both wrestlers walk off the mat no better or worse than they went on. The difference is who's arm is raised. What I teach my sons and daughters is that there is value in winning no less value in trying. My little 5 year old cried after his first loss after 10 wins. The second time he realized that sometimes you do not always come out on top and not a tear was shed. All he wanted to know was if he would still get 3rd place in the tournament.