Wrestle a girl, don't wrestle a girl, it is your choice. It doesn't matter that much to me. As with Kansas, and I am sure a number of other states, Iowa allows female high school wrestlers to compete in wrestling. So the only choice that you can make as a wrestler, as the wrestler's parents or as their coaches, is wrestle the girl, or don't wrestle the girl. If you choose not too for whatever reason, no problem. If you wrestle them and wipe the mat with them, no problem. If you choose to wrestle them and they whip you, that is wrestling.