From my Pastor friend...

By the grace of God, we raise our sons to be valiant. We want them to fight evil; to protect women and children; to defy the ruthless; to expose lies. We want our sons, in short, to have something of the warrior about them. We hear David's dying call to Solomon afresh: "be strong and show yourself a man" (1 Kings 2:2).
Our culture has tried to undo all such thinking. It calls such instincts "toxic." It leaves our boys, in a very real sense, without their manhood. It makes them males, not men. When Satan pulls off this coup, he renders some young men defeated, some Epicurean and fleshly, some lost, some effeminate, and a good number angry--very angry, with no good outlet for their anger. This last kind of man is the most dangerous type there is.
In such a climate, we must do something much more difficult than dismiss our young men or shout at them. We must love them. We must help them. Here are some ways we train our sons in biblical manhood borne of the gospel of Christ:
We want our sons to be able to comfort their little sister when she is scared.
We want our sons to honor their mother and treat her with great respect.
We want our sons to be tender toward a frightened child.
We want our sons to defuse needless conflicts with skill.
We want our sons to encourage the downhearted.
We want our sons to show gentle kindness to the grieving.
We want our sons to go outside when it is stormy and prepare the household for fierce winds.
We want our sons to sit patiently with their younger brother and read him a story.
We want our sons to clear their throat when their professor attacks the Christian faith, and calmly and reasonably refute what has been said, never once losing their cool.
We want our sons, when they lose the championship game in a heartbreaker, to stay after and put all the used cups in the trash.
We want our sons to sit at the lunchtable with a peer who has Down Syndrome, and befriend him.
We want our sons to mow the lawn of the elderly widow down the street, and hug her warmly when he leaves.
We want our sons to identify the child at youth group who struggles to speak up and befriend them.
We want our sons to treat girls their age like sisters, neither luring them nor ignoring them, but showing genuine kindness to them.
We want our sons to rise, read their Bibles, and say their prayers.
If we fathers die, we want our sons to carry our casket, comfort our wife at the funeral, and then come home to provide for the family--leaving the house a boy, returning to it a man.
By the grace of God, we shall have sons like this.