The one and only experience my son has had with TOHK was this weekend. Two coaches had watched him (on match 6) and afterward congrats and told him he did good.
I was a little eery about TOHK based off this forum but went in open minded. From our experience and those I saw, if you treat them with the same respect you would have towards everyone else most of them will respect you the same. Yes they get a little hyped but what is wrong with that, they appear to be proud to wear their black and gray and they show it. As for the finger incident, how is that different than spitting in a ref's face or all the other incidents I have seen from other clubs over the year. If it is indeed true, it need not happen, but DO NOT CAST THE FIRST STONE!