My son did not wrestle a TOHK kid, but his friend did and the experience was fine (mat 6). The TOHK kid lost but the coaches showed respect to the winner. Do not judge the whole group from the actions of some of the coaches. It appears that a group of the coaches are causing problems while the others are fine.
I am just stating my views and do not wish to be ridiculed for my views. I trying to give a view on the matter from the "outside".