Quite often I hear people say so and so is a rough wrestler and upon further review, the wrestler is an aggressive freestyle/greco participant. In those two styles, initiating action is rewarded, something "folkstyle only" wrestlers know little about.

I coach "banging on a kid." A kid that bangs on an opponent will win a good percentage of his matches as they break a kid mentally. It's the classic fight or flight analogy.

Who's to say when someone is being too aggressive? Only the official can make that determination and quite often, it's not in favor of the wrestler that thinks the opponent was too rough. This is wrestling - not ballet.