I had one son throw what I felt to be a flagrant crossface. He had been poked in the eye and hooked it hard. The ref did not feel it was flagrant but my son felt horrible after the match. The opposing coach felt it was flagrant and did not want my son wrestling anymore of his kids. My son went and apologized to the kid and his coach,to the ref, to the scorekeepers, to his team-mates and I thought perhaps he would take an ad out in the paper. It isn't in his style or in his character to do that. It was a momentary loss of control from which he has learned. Does he have a label with this other team now? Perhaps. But it is his reputation HE has to set right. I don't know Jesse. But one thing I can express to Jesse is...the only opinion you ever have to worry about is the one you have of yourself.