I can agree as the message board, which this thread comments on, http://www.kansas.com, has removed their posts, which did include offensive posts singling out a specific wrestler. I have made a few more phone calls and here are things I would consider we all think about. If in fact a different action occurred for the managers which it appears it did, maybe more information needs to be gathered before assumptions are made on this forum. For example, if a different event, (I know, hard to believe), occurred with the managers and if they had different actions and responses as opposed to the wrestlers, the different punishment may have been justified. Maybe Mr. Salyer can indicate with his friend, if the managers were cooperative with the coaches or not? Were they in the same room as the party, or not? Were they cooperative with the administration, or not? It seems to me the wrestlers in fact did not even know about the managers “party.” If one is to place their trust in the administration and coaches, maybe, the administration understands and realizes a different set of circumstances occurred and they responded appropriately.

I know this type of thing occurs with most high school teams. I don’t support it, but that don’t change the facts. Anyone who denies it, likely never participated on a sports team. That is not an excuse and the actions should not be condoned. But I think a good topic of discussion related to this might be what schools do to prevent this type of thing. Our school has a lights out policy, and coaches check the room on overnight trips to insure the wrestlers are staying out of trouble. I expect when allowing a large group of high school students to get together in a room there is little good that can be expected. High school kids will be high school kids. At that point parental assignment to rooms, coaches’ room checks and those types of things should be expected. I don't know how something like this could have occurred with a team that follows this policy.

I do believe Derby’s administration, coaches, and parents have control of this situation. Hopefully, we can learn from it to see that it doesn’t occur with our Kansas schools in the future. As stated before, let’s be careful about making decisions that affect the life of a high school student. While some may pretend these students are adults, that is all they are doing, pretending. These were not youth caught with a DUI or having a drinking problem. May some of us who on occasion consume alcohol, or have done things we shouldn’t that make this pale in comparison, be careful before we throw stones, may we instead seek truth, justice, while at the same time, displaying mercy.